The BLUE Psychology

The OLDAGE is the last phase of life. Basically old age is just a mind-set. If you are a positive minded person, then even at the age of 80, one can make him/herself and the people around them feel young forever. But if one has a negative mind-set then, the person can look old even at the age of 40. However, some other conditions can also be responsible for depression in old age. Research says, mostly in old age the fear of death, financial worries, loneliness, unexpected death of a close friend, a close relative, spouse or someone younger can be the cause of depression . In earlier days, joint family systems were functional. So the whole family used to stay together in every phase of life till old age. With the changing times, now the nuclear family system especially in the urban culture became functional. As children grew up, for better prospects related to their jobs, business & profession they started getting settled away from home in another city or another country. ...

MIDLIFE CRISIS Midlife crisis can also be a cause of depression in men and women in normal life. The midlife crisis was researched by psychologist Carl Jung and according to him it is a simple proof of the process of maturing. After age 38-40, people experience an emotional transition in this process. Due to this, some people wish to change the surrounding conditions of their lifestyle and manage to do it easily. But those who are not able to do it easily can become a victim of depression or anxiety . Many a times, husband and wife become so busy in earning money that they forget the purpose for which they are earning the money. In today's age, many people plan to work rigorously and earn lot of money only to retire at the age of 40. So after retirement, they can experience the life by doing all the things they actually wish to do apart from their profession or career by using the money they have earned. But till the age of 40, they lose their mindset in such a way that they cann...

(PCSD) The age range of 24-25 years is another delicate age group, when one completes the studies, and get prepared to step in the outside world to face the real life challenges. The mindset required to fit in the competitive world and to face the challenges is different and it goes on developing and changing as one gets matured by age & experience. Education gets completed but securing a job sometimes gets delayed and the first struggle begins at this junction itself .  Mostly after getting a MBA degree or any other higher education, students get placed through campus placements in reputed companies with a good salary package. Our friends too get placed, but unfortunately, we don’t get selected or placed in any company for whatever reasons. Now the struggle begins. Mind starts bowing the seeds of despair. The friends who used to spend all the day and night with us suddenly get busy & unavailable. After some period, being jobless, the family & the relatives start taunti...

Now-a-days students, mainly teenagers between the age group of 13 to 19 are mostly facing this problem. But somewhere or the other, again it starts in childhood. Some parents believe that their children should not get deprived of the luxuries which they themselves were deprived off due to their parent’s non affordable circumstances or financial conditions. To some extent having such feelings towards their children is appreciable, but it is very important to set a limit for that too. Humans have a natural tendency of not valuing the things they get easily. Then how can children be different. Due to easy availability, children don’t even realise the struggle required to earn things in life. They get what they ask for. Due to this mindset, they are not used to adjust or accept any kind of “NO” or “Giving up” on anything in their life. Any kind of refusals affect their ego or self esteem. Stress due to Expectations   Some children are basically smart & all rounder. They get ...

In many cases of depression, it is observed that the seeds of trauma are associated with childhood. Any instance in the past leaves an impact on the mind or makes a mental note unknowingly in the subconscious mind. And in present, when similar situation or event occurs, the trauma aggravates emerging the fear associated with it. It can affect one’s mental balance. or the mentality required to face different incidents in life. The manner in which a person’s childhood is spent, may also help in knowing how his mind works. Most humans grow up in three types of environment, which determines their mind-set to a great extent: 1) Protective or Pampered Environment  2) Carefree Environment  3) Strict or Abusive Environment 1) Protective or Pampered Environment: Children born in such an environment may face difficulties in facing the rigors of life. It can affect their decision making. Whatever good or bad, their parents make the choices for them.  So when they feel that they...

  Blog Post 02: The FEELING   In the last blog, The BLUES was referred to a mental condition. This blog is an attempt to describe the kind of feeling a person experiences in the phase of  BLUES . Actually the fact is, the one in the phase of depression do not feel anything. The mind is in zero phase. One cannot think or wish to do anything, do not want to talk to anyone. They cannot even express anything or explain what is going on in their mind or in their brains. They just wish to stay calm & left alone. The result also affects their physical capabilities.They don’t wish to get out of their room or even their house for days.  Quite a times we experience the  "Feeling Low"  phase .  This is commonly heard from our friends, colleagues, brothers and sisters in our family, (except mother, because in Indian culture, MOTHERS are not supposed to feel low or the family behaves in a manner that mothers have no right to feel low... which obviously is a wr...